So, we read this book in high school called The Lords Of Discipline. And it was actually a pretty good book but what has always stuck with me was a quote from the main character talking about those who have hurt him and he says,
“The adversary who is truly formidable is the one who works within the fortress walls, singing pleasant songs while licking honey off knives”
This always stuck with me… The idea of people who hate so much, and who are filled with so much pain that they are willing to really work toward destroying someone. Like how for do you have rot away on the inside to be this person?
But then I kept rereading the quote over and over and reread the page its on and I remembered its about his mother, and how she hurt him without even knowing it. She wasn’t even meaning to….it was more about how she never stood up against the norms. She took her role as “Southern Woman” and so she participated in life as a Southern Woman. Not standing up to her abusive husband, telling her son to do what a “southern boy” should do, teaching him to live the life of a “General’s son”…. but think about that
She lived her life based on roles that are PASSIVE and taught her children to be the same.
But NONE of these roles allow someone to be the person they WANT TO BE
And so many people live in this lifestyle. Living out roles that have been picked for them, as if its somehow noble to give up who you want to be for who someone told you to be. And worse, out culture puts down people who try to be themselves. People who go….Im a guy but I don’t like football are called gay. Girls who don’t want to wear heels are called Dykes. Ugly people who claim they want to be actors are called CRAZY.
But really are they? And whats better? Being a crazy gay dyke or being a pussy bitch who never tried to live their own life?
I mean seriously, you wonder why America’s rates of depression, panic, anxiety, midlife crises, and suicide are so high?????? Maybe as a culture we need to look in the fucking mirror. Really see the shithole we have dug for ourselves. And I mean REALLY LOOK HARD
Why is bullying seen as normal? Why is it normal for guys to treat girls like shit? Why is it normal to beat up gay people?
WHY DO WE CARE ABOUT THINGS THAT ARE SO USELESS (Like gay marriage)
BUT THEN NEVER QUESTION PROBLEMS THAT ARE SO DAMN DESTRUCTIVE? (Like bullying/rape/suicide/) AND INSTEAD GO “boys will be boys” “kids will be kids” or my absolute favorite bullshit excuse… ‘Shit happens”
Why do we live in a world of black and white? There are so many beautiful colors in-between that so many people don’t even want to see because…. what?
IS BLACK AND WHITE AN EASIER LIFESTYLE? THERE ARE NO QUESTIONS TO ASK IN A BLACK AND WHITE WORLD…. WHAT IS JUST IS…
ARE YOU JEALOUS BECAUSE YOURE BLACK AND WHITE? AND SO YOU HATE SOMEONE ELSE IS FREE ENOUGH TO SHIMMER IN A BRILLIANT YELLOW, GREEN, BLUE, OR ALL 3?
Ill conclude this with a great quote from the movie CONTACT.
So David Drumlin has been chosen to go to space because he backstabbed Ellie Arroway (who should have been the chosen candidate)because he claims that since she is an atheist she shouldn’t have the possibility to meet alien life because she doesn’t represent a majority of the Earth’s population who believe in God… Even though Ellie is the one who discovered the alien life. So before he gets in the shuttle they have a quick encounter that goes:
David Drumlin: I know you must think this is all very unfair. Maybe that’s an understatement. What you don’t know is I agree. I wish the world was a place where fair was the bottom line, where the kind of idealism you showed at the hearing was rewarded, not taken advantage of. Unfortunately, we don’t live in that world.
Ellie Arroway: Funny, I’ve always believed that the world is what we make of it.
Think about that. Life is what we make of it. So next time you want to have a “oh thats just the way life is” moment… remember its only that way because we allow it to be.
Lets start allowing life to be colorful like it was meant to be, ok?
Believe In Yourself,
THE DARK HORSE