Ah, I know why you’re here. You know someone suffering from depression and are looking for some advice or closure. Or perhaps you’re someone who does have depression and you’re looking to commiserate and see if others experience the things you do.
….well…. the answer is yes.
To the normal people out there… dear sweet jesus you say some really dumb shit to us all the time and you probably don’t know it.
And to the depressed people out there….. you’re not alone. I hear this said to me and others all the time.
So lets get into it with THINGS TO NEVER SAY TO A DEPRESSED PERSON!
1.) “YEAH I KNOW HOW IT FEELS TO BE SAD. THIS ONE TIME BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH HAPPENED TO ME”
So, I know this one is done with good intentions, however, it just isn’t true. Unfortunately, depression is a miserable, ongoing agony that makes life hard to live. Depression is not us being sad because of a breakup, or because we didn’t make the varsity team, or because we didn’t get that promotion.
We still have all of life’s normal problems like you. We however have this extra weight that at times seems completely impossible to lift. Impossible to cure. Impossible to move beyond. And trust me, hearing you always tell us how you guys get it and know what were talking about is annoying and only continues our belief that we shouldn’t talk to you about this.
2.) “YOU LOOK LIKE SHIT”
Really? I hadn’t noticed, thanks for that.
When we stroll into work Monday morning looking like a fucking mess it isn’t because we spent the weekend snorting coke and drinking at the clubs like you. Its because we haven’t slept properly for over 5 years. Its because our professional and personal relationships fall apart at the seams. Its because we don’t eat properly because were too depressed to give a fuck.
So please, keep your comments to yourself because every time I hear someone say that to me I want to go hide under my covers for another 5 years.
3.) “WHY DONT YOU JUST TAKE MEDICATION?”
Because bitch, then I’m a drug addict.
And don’t get me wrong, mediation is the road some people choose and for them it may be the best option. However, two things here sweet pie: First, if someone is taking medication for their problems DONT FUCKING BRING IT UP TO THEM! That is proper rudeness right there.
And secondly, a lot of studies show that for long-term progress medication doesn’t score as high as therapy and hard work. Medication is a quicker fix but what it ends up being is a band aid over a gaping wound. Once you remove the medication the problem is still there. You didn’t actually fix anything you just temporarily covered it up.
So please, don’t encourage your friends or family members to stop fighting simply because you don’t want to deal with it.
4.) “ARE YOU STILL RELIABLE?”
Wow…. can someone in the audience start a slow clap for all the cunts out there who have said this. If you’re an employer or teacher or coach or any role of authority out there DO YOU REALLY THINK ASKING THIS WILL IN ANY WAY POSSIBLY HELP THE SITUATION?
Cuz clearly we don’t have enough shit to deal with already. But I’m sorry that my misery is causing you to worry. Because you’re right guys, you’re clearly the victim here…..
Advice: get over yourself and offer support not judgement. EVERYONE will benefit I promise
5.) ANY OF THE FOLLOWING: “GET OVER IT”, “ARE YOU STILL ACTING LIKE THAT?”, “YOU KNOW WE ALL HAVE PROBLEMS”, “YOURE JUST DRAMATIC”, “DRAMA QUEEN”, “YOURE DOING THIS FOR ATTENTION”, OR ANY OTHER SELFISH MEAN SHIT
If I ever catch any of you saying this shit I will come and beat you down like I’m Madea
I understand that as a normal person you will never understand. I also understand that as a normal person, you will never understand that you will never understand. So, since we have an understanding that there will always be a misunderstanding I need you to just believe me on this one:
YOU JUST DONT GET IT TOOTS.
This is not us asking for attention. This is not us dwelling on the past for no reason. This isn’t a show, because, and not to be mean here…. You’re just a normal person. Why would we go through all this effort to put on a show for you? Perhaps thats your inner self-obsession coming through? Perhaps you’re actually being the drama queen here? Making our misery somehow about you? bravo sir, bravo.
ohhhh lord…… oh god, I’m getting mad writing this now…. my inner Madea is coming through again!
Im sorry I’m sorry! Im not a mean person its just that you have to understand that your words and actions have consequences, and you can’t just say shit like that to people who are already fragile. ….oohhh… oh god… here it comes again
Im sorry for throwing a ham at you….. Im going to be nice now.
So lets just come to a truce here. Im going to be nice and you’re going to be nice. Got it? Lets all just work together and be nicer and support each other rather than be pitted against each other. After all, the Beatles did say “Love is all you need”
~ The Dark Horse