So, I came across this quote the other day, and I’ll admit, it’s sad that I just found this because I was literally in a philosophy class last semester and we talked about Kant! Not to mention the fact that I’ve been blogging about depression and my lonely life for 4 fucking years now.
Anyhoo, so Kant has famously said:
Have you all heard this before? Because seriously, this is like life changing for me… and yet I’m worried that this quote may be common knowledge for pretty much everyone but me.
Anyways, let’s dive into this shit.
1.) SOMETHING TO DO
For a very, very long time, I lacked this. I mean, even to this very day I’m still pretty weak in this department (But I’m making progress). But I completely agree that this is so true. When you’re doing things that you hate and that bore you, how the fuck are you supposed to be happy?
For example, I’ve spent so many fucking years working in restaurants and in retail. I was bored. In fact, I was bored to death. I was so bored that I was horribly depressed, and would break out into panic attacks just thinking about how meaningless my life was.
What made it even worse is that I would try to reach out to people. I’d try to be like, “I’m so unhappy, I know I can do more with my life…I’m meant for more than this.”
and that was always met with:
“In this economy you should just be thankful you have a job…”
“Oh well you know, everyone gets bored with everything they do eventually…”
“What other kind of job do you think you could even get???”
It’s sad that people don’t try and life you up, they just try and keep you down at their level. The lesson here is that if you’re doing something and you feel like your stuck and bored and miserable, then switch it up! Get out of that place! (Granted this is something that can take time…but don’t let that deter you from doing it!)
2.) SOMEONE TO LOVE
I think it’s pretty obvious that this doesn’t just mean love in a romantic sense. I think this is more about having people in your life. Friends, family, and romance.
I’ve talked about this with a lot of people. I never had anyone there for me growing up, and it totally killed me inside. Living in social isolation is absolute hell. And what’s even worse is when bad things happen to you. In general, most people get through the bad times by being surrounded by those who care about them. They use the shoulders around them to cry on.
And when you don’t have any shoulders around…when it’s just you vs. the universe, the world is a horribly crushing place.
Having people in your life…people who actually care… is life changing.
In fact, something pretty amazing happened the other night. I’ve started to make some friends here at Harvard. We met through a board game club on campus. And last month it was brought up that when Star Wars came out, we should all go see it.
And sure enough, on Thursday, opening night for The Last Jedi, we all went and saw it. I was standing in the T, with seven of my friends around me… I looked around and I thought to myself… “Wow, this is the first time in my entire life that I’ve ever gone somewhere with a group of people!”
I don’t want to sound stupid, but it was a completely profound experience. I, at 27 years old, had finally done something that I’ve always wanted to do ever since I was a kid. I was hanging out with a group of friends.
We did all the things that people with social lives do. We were all texting each other about where to meet and stuff, we all sat in a group at the movies, and we even had an issue where the car broke down, so we had to flag someone down to jump the car at 1am… look at that, a night complete with wacky surprises! This may seem like normal stuff you guys, but for me, this was a totally new experience. It’s crazy how something that seems so meaningless to most people can be so moving to others.
I actually really like how Star Wars has a way of bringing people together. It’s almost like it’s mankind’s favorite story. It teaches us to be better people and to never give up.
3.) SOMETHING TO HOPE FOR
So, I see this as also meaning something to look forward. Something that makes you want to keep living. Something that makes you believe fun and happiness is on the horizon. That something will better your life.
And… hmmmm… this is becoming a Star Wars post now. Because you know, Star Wars is all about HOPE. The entire plot-line of Star Wars is the hope that good will overcome darkness. That is the rebellion.
And I don’t know if any of you have read some of my earlier posts throughout the years, but there have been times when I literally have had no hope. There have been times where I was just wishing that I’d die through the night so I wouldn’t have to go on living another day.
But now…things are different. Since starting at Harvard, it’s like my life has turned around. I have internships now… I have a sense that I will actually make something of myself… I think I could become a good writer at some point… and I even have friends now (wtf right? How did all this happen?)
Well…I needed hope. I needed hope that my life could become better. I needed hope that things weren’t over yet. I needed to believe that I could do it.
And now, that small sliver of hope, that small flame in the eternal darkness… It’s lead to more hope. And now, hopefully this post is bringing about more hope. Because like Kant says, we all need hope.
So, what does this mean? …. good question. This post was not put together well at all. My writing professors would be annoyed, but you know what fuck them. This isn’t being written for a class, this is being written for catharsis.
But here’s what I can say for you. If you have people who are bringing you down, well then, you gosta’ slap a bitch.
Cuz you got this. You can do it. Yes, this world can be unfair, and sure, some of may be missing some or all of Kant’s 3 sources to happiness, but this is the only life we have. And so we gotta rock shit out.
Go for it.
Never give up.
And may the force be with you.
Light speed bitches!
~ The Dark Horse