Ok, so I hate to bitch about things again, but I’ve noticed a common trend with trans people lately on apps like Grindr, Tinder, and Bumble.
So it goes like this:
Their profile will be like, “I’m blah blah blah and interested in blah blah blah…. and btw, yes I’m trans, and NO it’s not my job to teach you about it. Go Google it on your own, this isn’t my responsibility….”
AND YES, I SEE THIS OFTEN.
So then I’m forced to respond (because, how could I not?) with, “Why do you think it isn’t your responsibility?”
And they’re always like… “What do you mean?”
And I’m like… “You’re trans, and oppressed minority who is demanding equal rights… So how the fuck do you somehow believe it isn’t your job to educate the country on trans people? It most certainly is your responsibility.”
And of course, then I get the…
OMG YOU TRUMP SUPPORTER!
TYPICAL WHITE MAN!
CIS WHITE PRIVILEGE!
SEE THIS IS WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT!!!! I’M OPPRESSED!!!
And then they say something like,
OMG THIS ALWAYS HAPPENS!
WHY CANT I JUST BE ME!
I JUST WANT TO LIVE MY LIFE!
(which only makes me more annoyed)
So I’m like, “Look. I’m not anti-trans. However, this is insane. You wonder why half this country hates trans people? You wonder why they’re so uneducated? Why they’re so confused, hateful, and afraid? Well imagine not knowing a trans person, and then the only ones you meet are like, DON’T ASK ME QUESTIONS! IT ISNT MY JOB! JUST GO AWAY!”
I’m like…”You’re just fucking yourself and your cause over.”
AND THEN, EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. The response I get is, “BECAUSE IT ISN’T FAIR THAT I HAVE TO DO THAT.”
And I’m like… listen cunt. NO SHIT! Of course it isn’t fair. Oppression, by definition, isn’t fair. But just because it isn’t fair doesn’t mean it isn’t the truth.
Can you people imagine if the black community was like, “Well, a bus strike would raise national attention and hurt the economy of the white man…BUT UGH… IT ISN’T FAIR THAT I’LL HAVE TO WALK TO WORK…SO I’M NOT GOING TO DO IT.”
I didn’t enjoy getting beat up as the gay kid in Ohio. It wasn’t fair. But it was the truth. It’s what happened. It’s how my hometown treated gay people.
Also, listen to yourself. If you don’t educate people on it… how many people will? How many transphobic people will actually go and Google it on their own? And even if they do, they’ll probably search FoxNews or InfoWars or something which is exactly where you DON’T want them getting their news from.
ALSO, SPOILER ALERT HERE — The fact that you can say that is privilege!!!!!!!!
CHECK YOUR PRIVILEGE BRO!
The fact that you can be like, I’m trans, but isn’t my job to fight for my own rights, IS PRIVILEGE. And I guess what, if you were in my hometown, you wouldn’t be able to act like that. Trans people in big cities and liberal areas like the coasts have no idea what actual oppression is. And your attitudes are only hurting LGBT people stuck in middle America who don’t have the privilege of living in an open and accepting area like you.
So, get your head out of your ass. Yes, life as a trans person is unfair. But this world is unfair. And those who hate you don’t care that its unfair towards you, so I’m not sure why you think simply saying “This is unfair” is going to change anything. THEY DON’T CARE. You, YES YOU, have to actually fight for it.
I, as a cis person, can defend you and can vote for liberal policies, but it’s highly unlikely that I can change people’s minds on trans people since I’m not trans. Unfortunately, it’s UP TO YOU.